12/7/2014 8:04:17 Can you tell us why your message is so important? For the ones that understand why it’s important but for those who don’t, maybe you can let them know why. I for one understand why it’s so important.
I think in short, the message is so important because families are becoming extinct.
Our society is getting so that pleasures and passions dictate our moral code of conduct, rather than our moral code of conduct dictating our pleasures and passions. We’ve become infatuated with dominance and submission and have forgotten that without a moral code of conduct by which to direct those things, we end up like animals, fullfilling our selfish appetites rather than nurturing our families. It’s not good and it’s not right. But unless we offer another way, a way that serves desires and passions while strengthening the family unit, then we’re just sitting on the sidelines and watching the circus.
12/7/2014 22:22:29 Hi Lucian. First I want to say how much you’ve helped my marriage. You’ve opened up the door to a deeper communication with my husband, and we are prayerfully embracing our roles with relief. The problem I’m having is now that my husband is being so open, he has revealed some fantasies that I’m not sure I’m comfortable with. He would like me to penetrate him and for me to take control on occasion. I don’t know if he can truly be the Dom I need if he’s asking me to pretend I have a penis, and I’m afraid if I begin this, that it may escalate into something that will make him want to leave and seek others who are better equipped and the enemy will have him in his grasp. I want to obey my husband in this, and I wouldn’t mind giving him this pleasure, but I don’t know if we can safely experiment without devolving into sin. Is it safe to indulge him on occasion?
I think it is, yes. There are toys for that and you need to talk about hard limits. Be open about the fears you have and also be open about the possibility of it growing into something more. If he’s not totally in love with you, that is the greater danger. If he’s entirely in love and committed, there is only pleasure to be had and heightened.
The key is talking to him about it. Discuss it at length. Watch how you approach it, be gentle in revealing your fears, sometimes it’s considered a great insult to hear your wife thinks you’ll run off with somebody. If you have reason to feel that way, remind him of that. I wouldn’t mind chatting more with you or him about it if you need to. But remind me who you are if you do so that I address it, I have so many chat boxes.
I hope that helped.