Vanilla BDSM 101 Journey Prep

Good morning ladies. A few important things! (you know it’s important when I use an exclamation mark) I’d like to start class by saying I’m proud of you for even being here. It takes special people to realize things are broken and even more special to take the steps to fix them, paying no mind to who broke what in the first place. Why does it matter? The family is headed for the cliff, we can talk about that during “preventive maintenance”. But saying that, I want you all to know that sometimes the most heroic thing, is knowing when … Continue reading

Vanilla BDSM 101 (Beginning)

Welcome to your first class. First, I’d like to say that I woke up every day for the last week feeling the burden of this series of posts to come. How to present the ideas and concepts in a way that women will get. Really get. For one, I’m speaking to mass diversity. Not everything I will say will apply to all, and some of what I say, in fact, goes against the grain of people’s situations. And, I worry about that. So, let’s start off by you understanding a few things. One: I don’t have YOUR answers. Only you … Continue reading

Vanilla BDSM 101….coming soon

*Note: Not all advice given in this post will apply to everybody. Only the reader can determine what does apply or doesn’t.   “Ask yourself when was the last time you sacrificed who YOU are to allow someone else to be who THEY are.” I found the above at the end of one of the Dom Wars reviews and it really hit me. They get it. They see it. Keep telling them, it’s coming through. I have tried hard to convey what being a good Dom truly means. I feel some days that I’m fighting against a tidal wave of … Continue reading

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    I usually refer to males as the more dominant and females as the more submissive. The intention is NOT to say that ALL relationships should fit that pattern. My relationship experience is with male dominant, female submissive arrangements and that is the only sort of relationship I have firsthand knowledge about.