TGIF From Poe

Well well well, what do you we have here? Nothing to see here but EXPLOSIVES!   As per usual, if you want the OUTRAGEOUSLY HOT SNIPPET that goes with that, sign up HERE       Related articles across the web Delia’s Debt by Allison West – book blitz with giveaway Notes on a Filthology This Nerd Is Rewriting ’50 Shades Of Grey’ And It’s Better Than The Original Lenni Reviews “Bag the Beast” by Jane Perky Blind-Sided – Part 6 Review–The Confessions Review: Mr. Perfect – J.A. Huss

Ask Lucian Anything (12-14)

12/7/2014 8:04:17 Can you tell us why your message is so important? For the ones that understand why it’s important but for those who don’t, maybe you can let them know why. I for one understand why it’s so important. Good question. I think in short, the message is so important because families are becoming extinct. Our society is getting so that pleasures and passions dictate our moral code of conduct, rather than our moral code of conduct dictating our pleasures and passions. We’ve become infatuated with dominance and submission and have forgotten that without a moral code of conduct … Continue reading

Contracts and Negotiations 101: The Devil in the Details

Everyone got their study hats on? Good. Last week we talked about what a BDSM, or relationship, contract actually is, and some of what it is not. This week, I thought we should hit on some of the terms that sometimes can be defined in different ways, because that’s where a contract can become the key to a fantastic relationship, or a nightmare on earth. Imagine, if you think of the word ‘discipline’ to mean ‘a denial of priveleges after one partner fails to do something both agreed upon’, but the other person thinks of ‘discipline’ to mean ‘beating the … Continue reading

Vanilla BDSM 101 (So You Want A Dom Do You? Part 2)

  As with all my posts, I do not claim to be a doctor, therapist, priest, or any other professional of that sort. All you find in the sentences below are my ‘opinion’. To be considered like toilet tissue. Use it to wipe your eyes, your ass, or plug your ears, it’s all good. I’m going to gear this post to vanilla men who are basically “decent men”. This means they’re not perfect but they’re willing to try to do what is necessary to save the family even if they don’t know what that is. The men who understand the … Continue reading

Survivng Hell Series 1

  This is the first post in a series we’re doing about surviving bad relationships, whether it’s BDSM or vanilla.  The idea is if we can look at enough of these stories, maybe someone will spot the trend of abuse in their own before it gets truly bad, or recognize the signs and get out. There’s also a lot to be said for just getting it off your chest, and experiencing the mutual support of others who have been in similar situations. Aden posted on his Facebook asking for readers to share their stories. The response was an avalanche, some … Continue reading

Contracts & Negotiations 101

Contract. It’s one of the terms that gets tossed around a great deal when we’re talking about BDSM relationships. As we discuss BDSM, I think this is one of the basics we all need to understand. Knowing about negotiations and contracts can keep you out of a bad situation, or help you make your current relationship better. This series of blog posts is aimed toward giving us all a better understanding of contracts and negotiations as they apply to both vanilla and BDSM relationships, but other areas of life as well. Before you skip over, assuming this discussion has no … Continue reading

So You Want A Dom, Do You?

Class is back in session, ladies. Good morning. It’s been a few days since the last post, where we boosted morale in order to take the baby steps in our journey. So. Where are we going in this journey, anyway? So important to keep your eye on the goal. More important to know what your goal is. So, let’s assume that you ladies would like a Dom. A man that takes charge in the bedroom, grabs you by the hair, and unleashes the passion buried in his soul until you scream his name. A man that, with a word, a … Continue reading

Contracts and Negotiations

This is the first in a series of posts about contracts and negotiations between a Dominant and submissive. At the beginning of a D/s relationship, many people feel the need to lay out the exact expectations from each partner. Often known as a contract, this is a formal agreement about the roles each will fulfill. It is important to note that these contracts are NOT legally binding, but within the relationship the expectation is that both parties will honor the conditions. This type of contract can protect you, or it can be used against you. It’s up to you to … Continue reading

Vanilla BDSM 101 (Patience My Eager Butterflies)

Hello Sweet Stupid Monday. Okay fine, Tuesday. 🙂 You had lots to ponder over the weekend. So did I. I thought it was pretty heavy to digest in one dose and that elaborating on the various concepts covered might be a good idea. You can’t over prepare for this. It’s too important. Do you remember what this is? This is a war. Not in the traditional sense, of course, but in the sense that you and your familyare under attack by various factions. Past pains and hurts would like to hi-jack happiness right from your life and for many people, … Continue reading

  • Note:

    I usually refer to males as the more dominant and females as the more submissive. The intention is NOT to say that ALL relationships should fit that pattern. My relationship experience is with male dominant, female submissive arrangements and that is the only sort of relationship I have firsthand knowledge about.