The Creative Gods Skipped Me (Part 1)

I’m attempting first person so bear with me lol. I’ve not written it in a while and so forgive any 3rd person slips. I will edit this more later. ***** Spend time looking in the mirror. Who do you see? What do you see? How do you feel about it? I angled a look at my snoring husband and grabbed the hand mirror on the bed next to me. This was the stupidest assignment ever. Infuriatingly difficult too. I mean who looks in a mirror as though it’s a crystal ball? Seeking answers about themselves? I angled my face left … Continue reading

Contracts and Negotiations 101: The Devil in the Details

Everyone got their study hats on? Good. Last week we talked about what a BDSM, or relationship, contract actually is, and some of what it is not. This week, I thought we should hit on some of the terms that sometimes can be defined in different ways, because that’s where a contract can become the key to a fantastic relationship, or a nightmare on earth. Imagine, if you think of the word ‘discipline’ to mean ‘a denial of priveleges after one partner fails to do something both agreed upon’, but the other person thinks of ‘discipline’ to mean ‘beating the … Continue reading

Contracts & Negotiations 101

Contract. It’s one of the terms that gets tossed around a great deal when we’re talking about BDSM relationships. As we discuss BDSM, I think this is one of the basics we all need to understand. Knowing about negotiations and contracts can keep you out of a bad situation, or help you make your current relationship better. This series of blog posts is aimed toward giving us all a better understanding of contracts and negotiations as they apply to both vanilla and BDSM relationships, but other areas of life as well. Before you skip over, assuming this discussion has no … Continue reading

Contracts and Negotiations

This is the first in a series of posts about contracts and negotiations between a Dominant and submissive. At the beginning of a D/s relationship, many people feel the need to lay out the exact expectations from each partner. Often known as a contract, this is a formal agreement about the roles each will fulfill. It is important to note that these contracts are NOT legally binding, but within the relationship the expectation is that both parties will honor the conditions. This type of contract can protect you, or it can be used against you. It’s up to you to … Continue reading

  • Note:

    I usually refer to males as the more dominant and females as the more submissive. The intention is NOT to say that ALL relationships should fit that pattern. My relationship experience is with male dominant, female submissive arrangements and that is the only sort of relationship I have firsthand knowledge about.