Ask Lucian Anything (12-14)

12/7/2014 8:04:17 Can you tell us why your message is so important? For the ones that understand why it’s important but for those who don’t, maybe you can let them know why. I for one understand why it’s so important. Good question. I think in short, the message is so important because families are becoming extinct. Our society is getting so that pleasures and passions dictate our moral code of conduct, rather than our moral code of conduct dictating our pleasures and passions. We’ve become infatuated with dominance and submission and have forgotten that without a moral code of conduct … Continue reading

Contracts & Negotiations 101

Contract. It’s one of the terms that gets tossed around a great deal when we’re talking about BDSM relationships. As we discuss BDSM, I think this is one of the basics we all need to understand. Knowing about negotiations and contracts can keep you out of a bad situation, or help you make your current relationship better. This series of blog posts is aimed toward giving us all a better understanding of contracts and negotiations as they apply to both vanilla and BDSM relationships, but other areas of life as well. Before you skip over, assuming this discussion has no … Continue reading

Contracts and Negotiations

This is the first in a series of posts about contracts and negotiations between a Dominant and submissive. At the beginning of a D/s relationship, many people feel the need to lay out the exact expectations from each partner. Often known as a contract, this is a formal agreement about the roles each will fulfill. It is important to note that these contracts are NOT legally binding, but within the relationship the expectation is that both parties will honor the conditions. This type of contract can protect you, or it can be used against you. It’s up to you to … Continue reading

  • Note:

    I usually refer to males as the more dominant and females as the more submissive. The intention is NOT to say that ALL relationships should fit that pattern. My relationship experience is with male dominant, female submissive arrangements and that is the only sort of relationship I have firsthand knowledge about.