Contracts and Negotiations 101: The Devil in the Details

Everyone got their study hats on? Good. Last week we talked about what a BDSM, or relationship, contract actually is, and some of what it is not. This week, I thought we should hit on some of the terms that sometimes can be defined in different ways, because that’s where a contract can become the key to a fantastic relationship, or a nightmare on earth. Imagine, if you think of the word ‘discipline’ to mean ‘a denial of priveleges after one partner fails to do something both agreed upon’, but the other person thinks of ‘discipline’ to mean ‘beating the … Continue reading

  • Note:

    I usually refer to males as the more dominant and females as the more submissive. The intention is NOT to say that ALL relationships should fit that pattern. My relationship experience is with male dominant, female submissive arrangements and that is the only sort of relationship I have firsthand knowledge about.