The Creative Gods Skipped Me (Part 1)

I’m attempting first person so bear with me lol. I’ve not written it in a while and so forgive any 3rd person slips. I will edit this more later. ***** Spend time looking in the mirror. Who do you see? What do you see? How do you feel about it? I angled a look at my snoring husband and grabbed the hand mirror on the bed next to me. This was the stupidest assignment ever. Infuriatingly difficult too. I mean who looks in a mirror as though it’s a crystal ball? Seeking answers about themselves? I angled my face left … Continue reading

Ask Lucian Anything (12-14)

12/7/2014 8:04:17 Can you tell us why your message is so important? For the ones that understand why it’s important but for those who don’t, maybe you can let them know why. I for one understand why it’s so important. Good question. I think in short, the message is so important because families are becoming extinct. Our society is getting so that pleasures and passions dictate our moral code of conduct, rather than our moral code of conduct dictating our pleasures and passions. We’ve become infatuated with dominance and submission and have forgotten that without a moral code of conduct … Continue reading

Loving With Lucian (FIND IT AND DO IT)

Hi ladies who are not single 🙂 I’m doing something new, and simple. It’s called “Let’s Play Nice” You ever wonder over the power of one or more, small, good deeds? Well, let’s test it and find that out. I want to do this “undercover” so, don’t tell your husband what you’re doing, just do it and record his responses in a journal. What are you going to do?  You’re going to bring healthy change to your relationship. You’re going to forgive past wrongs You’re going to take the first step And you’re going to FIND something that means something … Continue reading

Wednesday Journaling (Agitated)

The power of the pen lies within the heart of the writer. That’s what I heard in my head when I woke up this morning on the wrong side of the bed. It’s always the profound shit when I’m agitated. Yes, I’m agitated. But thankfully I learned to be careful not to let my agitation direct my day, only I forgot how that worked and snapped at my wife like a fucking dick. I could sit here and think of all the reasons why I’m agitated but none of them warrant taking it out on her. I’m pissed over valid … Continue reading

Reaching Out (Singles’ blog with Lucian Bane)

Here it is ladies, your singles’ post. So, I’ve been thinking a lot about this. How do I help single ladies? I think of you all as my sisters and good friends, so, it wasn’t as hard as I thought it might be to know what we need to talk about. Body Mind Heart Spirit Getting those four things into top health are what we need to focus on. The first thing I’d like to say to you is this: It’s not all about you. It’s about you and a potential very significant other and possibly a family too. So, … Continue reading

Ask Lucian 12-7

11/14/2014 11:56:31 I know you speak toward couples and married couples, but have you ever though about giving advice to single people without a significant other? Or would dating advice not be something you’re interested in? You will be happy to know that I am going to be dedicating a day during the week just for singles. 11/15/2014 20:29:28 Oh you like to cook, what is your most ambitious successful dish? What is your flavor.. mexican, italian, chinese, greek? That’s about 10 questions there! lol I do love to cook and I do love many cultural flavors. It’s like my … Continue reading

Ask Lucian 12-6

11/6/2014 16:31:53 What is your favorite song and why? I really honestly can’t pick. I have too many. 11/13/2014 13:25:54 How did you come to find yourself as a dom and a person? Through trial and error, like a lot of people. I think the two were always the same, I just had to learn how to make them mesh properly and understand that my Dom needed to be defined and controlled by me, not me defined and controlled by my dominance. Overnight Breakfast Enchiladas 7 Kid-Friendly Tips for Fall Hiking Bundle Up With Scarves

Ask Lucian 12-6

11/6/2014 16:31:53 What is your favorite song and why? I really honestly can’t pick. I have too many. 11/13/2014 13:25:54 How did you come to find yourself as a dom and a person? Through trial and error, like a lot of people. I think the two were always the same, I just had to learn how to make them mesh properly and understand that my Dom needed to be defined and controlled by me, not me defined and controlled by my dominance. Related articles across the web 7 Kid-Friendly Tips for Fall Hiking 28pc 12-Element Stainless Steel Cookware The Big … Continue reading

Vanilla BDSM 101 (So You Want A Dom Do You? Part 2)

  As with all my posts, I do not claim to be a doctor, therapist, priest, or any other professional of that sort. All you find in the sentences below are my ‘opinion’. To be considered like toilet tissue. Use it to wipe your eyes, your ass, or plug your ears, it’s all good. I’m going to gear this post to vanilla men who are basically “decent men”. This means they’re not perfect but they’re willing to try to do what is necessary to save the family even if they don’t know what that is. The men who understand the … Continue reading

Vanilla BDSM 101….coming soon

*Note: Not all advice given in this post will apply to everybody. Only the reader can determine what does apply or doesn’t.   “Ask yourself when was the last time you sacrificed who YOU are to allow someone else to be who THEY are.” I found the above at the end of one of the Dom Wars reviews and it really hit me. They get it. They see it. Keep telling them, it’s coming through. I have tried hard to convey what being a good Dom truly means. I feel some days that I’m fighting against a tidal wave of … Continue reading

  • Note:

    I usually refer to males as the more dominant and females as the more submissive. The intention is NOT to say that ALL relationships should fit that pattern. My relationship experience is with male dominant, female submissive arrangements and that is the only sort of relationship I have firsthand knowledge about.